Fembots and loneliness

[Muchacho]

Hey guys, I hope you all are doing well...

This year I will be 30 so I decided to create this post to get some advice and maybe some anecdotes from you.

I must confess I have been alone my entire life in terms of love and relationships due to my low self-esteem, and my fears and insecurities about women after witnessing bad experiences from some of my relatives.

I have been trying to change those aspects by doing physical activity and soon I will undergo orthodontic treatment to improve my looks a little bit.

The thing is that I want to ask someone on a date and I can't stop thinking about what would happen if I actually manage to be in a relationship. I keep thinking about the fact that my fetish can create conflicts between us and even more the fact that I like to create content of this nature (my YouTube channel).

My questions are:

Have you had to deal with rejection because of this?
How have you discussed this kind of things with your partners?
For those who collect fembot related media such as videos or pics, do you hide it from your partner?

For a long time I did not feel the need to have a relationship but I have been feeling incredibly lonely lately and I really would like to change that.

I really hope I don't get too personal with my questions. Anyway, thank you all for your time and responses. They are greatly appreciated.

[tinyspider]

From my experience, the healthiest thing you can do is openly talk about your preferences and fetishes with your significant other. When I got engaged, my partner back then came from a super conservative family, and when I tried to express my fantasies, her reaction was close to horrified, so I opted not to bring up that subject anymore. This brought a lot of frustration later in life, and that relationship ended in divorce. After several therapy sessions, I realized that if something is important for me, then it must be discussed, so I brought it up with my partners since then. As a rule of thumb most people have fantasies one way or another, but how they react to your particular kink depends on how you approach it, and their own conceptions. I've been lucky enough to have roleplayed fantasy scenarios with partners (even casual ones) given that I became pretty open about what I like. I've been rejected a few times, but you have to keep a mentality of not being excessively worried about it; it's not the end of the world and everyone's entitled to their own preferences. I have a curated collection of videos I've shown to my partners so they understand better and it definitely helps.

As for personal advice, being physically attractive helps, of course, but to find a partner you need to be confident and work on being an interesting person by finding things to do that you like, besides consuming digital media: Sports, music, theater, writing, whatever it is, find something fulfilling and engage with it; it will help you gain confidence and have energy to attract like-minded people.

One last piece of advice: Learn how to bring sex topics at the appropriate times. I can't tell you exactly when that is, but it implies learning to "read the room".

[dubhdanaidh]

I can honestly say I've never experienced rejection because of my fetish. At worst I've told someone and they weren't interested.

That includes my current partner of over a decade. She doesn't care, expect not being too thrilled about me spending so much money on custom content. That being said I always pay the bills and save money, so its more a combination of not understanding what the appeal combined with a sense that I'm getting scammed and could spend my money on other things. It doesn't help that whenever I have run into a content creator who takes forever I complain to her about it and/or bluntly state that I think I got scammed. That being said, I am honestly hopeful that the new film Companion might interest her.

I've also told friends and family members in the past. I'm older, so I'm not sure if my parents understand what a fetish is, by they certainly have known for years. This fetish wasn't something I stumbled into one day. If anything finding Gynoid Gallery was a revelation that I wasn't the only one.

As for hiding content, it depends on what you mean by "hiding." Regular content is regular content. Most nights we sit on the couch hanging out and my DVDs of My Living Doll are on the shelf with every other DVD and BluRay. As for porn, I don't leave it out or anything like that. Like I said my current partner doesn't really care. She knows I buy content, she knows I buy customs, and as far as I know it is a non-issue.

When we first got together she caught my jerking off one night and just told me don't hide it and don't try to form any real romantic relationship with a porn star. It helps that she isn't the jealous type, doesn't think watching porn is cheating, and knows she always comes first. It probably helps that I travel a lot for work, so she'd rather I jerk off in my hotel than get my rocks off at a bar or strip club.

Edit:

I just wanted to add that it is funny because the only time I've been shamed rejected for my fetish is when trying to order from certain content creators, which is funny because given the state of OnlyFans I've had most of them start asking for my money in the last year. It is almost as sad as when creators on sites like OnlyFans, LoyalFans, or ManyVids try to "start" a relationship. Remember everyone the strippers don't actually love you.

[Muchacho]

My dudes, thank you so much for writing your anecdotes here. Trying to find the right partner is certainly quite a journey. I think something that can add some difficulty to it may be the fact that I was born and live in a Latin-American country. Many women here tend to be a bit more conservative and not very open-minded in those aspects compared to those who live in first world countries. However, the important thing is not to give up and keep searching. If anything comes up or anything worth mentioning happens, I'll let you know here. I really appreciate any feedback you can give me.

[ProchazkaJBG]

Not sure why family or really even friends would need to know my (or anyone's) sexual interests... lol


I was in a long-term relationship, so she obviously knew about this lol, but wasn't into it herself so I never really ever brought it up... maybe like 5 or 6 times over a 12-year span. She didn't really get it at first, but never was hostile, dismissive, or anything like that [the only time she was is when she knew I had been watching robot porn lol... she did NOT like that]. Just indifferent really. I told a couple of other GF's and they basically had the same reaction. Not like enthusiastic or anything, but not negative.

[dubhdanaidh]

And what a day that was. We got the internet for the first time at home and I stumbled across Gynoid Gallery. So many hours loading images and playing with media players. I was thinking about the day I spent trying to get Electric Barbarella playing with RealPlayer.

Prior to the internet it was just me drawing fembots, usually with some sort of visual aid. Sadly for a variety of reasons I destroyed most of my drawings and still do. I'm not a good artist in the traditional sense.